Yoshikaの英語ワンポイントレッスン Vol. 20
これはタメになると大好評! ネイティブのカウンセラーによる英語ワンポイントレッスン!
今月は、日本人が苦手な、誘いや依頼を「断わる」時の英語。丁寧で、しかもはっきりと"NO"が伝わる言い方で。
REFUSING A REQUEST
Americans consider themselves to be frank, open, and direct in their dealings with other people. Americans will often speak openly and directly to others about things they dislike. They will try to do so in a manner they call constructive (a manner which the other person will not find offensive or unacceptable). Americans are generally more direct and open than people from most other countries. They will not try to hide their emotions. They are much less concerned than other cultures with avoiding embarrassment to themselves or others. To Americans, being honest is usually more important than preserving harmony in interpersonal relationships.
As such, unlike in other countries, American's do not have a problem saying "no" or refusing a request. But how can foreigners in the U.S. conduct this manner in an effective and polite way? Here are some tips on how to refuse politely:
- Keep in mind that you have the right to refuse a request. If you are not available for a party, date, or to help with something; you must refuse because you are unable to meet that request.
- If you cannot meet a request, be firm and direct about it. Do not say "maybe" or "I will let you know." It is better to be honest and say no, rather than lead the other person on (give a false impression) just to please someone.
- You do not have to provide a reason for saying no.
- If you can offer to help in another way, do so.
- Ask if you can do it on another day.
Here are some specific examples:
Q: Someone asks you to go out for lunch, or dinner.
A: "That sounds great but I can't make it that day. How about the following week instead?"
Q: Your classmate asks you to complete part of a project for him.
A: "I have a lot of homework and studying to do so I won't be able to do it right now. Maybe I will have time when I am done with my studies."
Q: Your co-worker asks you to do something that he or she is too busy to do.
A: "Sorry, I have so much work to do right now. I won't be able to help you out. Let me finish up my priorities and I will get back to you (this part is optional)."
Q: If someone asks you to join them in a business project or some sort of venture that you are not interested in…
A: "That sounds so interesting but I don't think that's the direction I want to go in. Good luck though!"
*If you are at a restaurant or business establishment where an employee offers you something you are not interested in, simply say "no, thank you."
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